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Tuesday, February 28, 2017

Part-Time Cloth Diapering at 9 Months Old


So why all of a sudden start cloth diapering a 9 month old?

It all started when I thought it was a good idea to introduce Calvin to the potty around 8.5 months old. We had one day of nakey baby butt all day except nap time so I could start to recognize his patterns. I ordered some training pants after that day. It was just easier to pull down underpants rather than lay him down to undo a diaper for those days we were really focusing on trying to use the potty consistently. Then I was talking to my best friend and she mentioned that she and her husband were thinking about cloth diapering. I made the excuse that we weren't doing it because Calvin stays with the Grandmas four days per week and I didn't want to burden them with cloth. Then it just occurred to me like magic: what's wrong with part-time cloth diapering? And so I started to do some research. And a lot of people made the case that a cloth diapered baby can better recognize when they're wet and can potty train faster, which was the point of our conversation to begin with.

I had watched cloth diapering mommies on YouTube while I was pregnant and thought it was interesting, and nice for them, but I never seriously considered doing it in our own family. And honestly, it wasn't the idea of poop and extra laundry that freaked me out, it was the seemingly endless options for different cloth diapers, brands, styles, accessories, etc. I didn't even know where to start or what would be easy, yet cost effective. So here I am with a 9 month old and we are giving it a go! I'm trying my best to use only cloth while I'm with Calvin. At the Grandmas he can continue using disposables. And my husband likes to use overnight disposables for nighttime, and that's our compromise. So on average, we're saving six diapers per day, three days per week.

Here are my top three reasons why.
1. Environment
I would not call myself a super hippie dippie momma, but even still when we take out the bag of disposables every few days it stuns me to see how much waste is involved with diapering a baby.
2. Affordability
Diapers are expensive. They might not seem like it because you spend a little at a time, but it sure adds up! And God willing, we want a big family, cloth will pay for itself in no time with multiple babies.
3. Cuteness
I totally understand all the cloth diaper addicted mommas out there! I want all the cute prints! But buying all the cute prints totally goes against reason #2. Haha.

Calvin (9 months, 22 pounds) modeling a Thirsties Duo Wrap size 2 in Woodland
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THE COST

This is our collection so far:
5 Thirsties Duo Wrap w/ snaps $66.25
1 Thirsties Duo Wrap w/ velcro $11.10
1 Ecoable cover w/ velcro $11
1 Happy Heiny's medium pocket diaper w/ velcro*
12 large Dandelion prefolds $27.33
6 large GMD prefolds $20
12 small GMD prefolds $30
6 small Gerber gauze flats*~
1 small Dandelion prefold*
cloth wipes and wash cloths*
3 Snappis $10.00
Total so far: $176

*= shower gifts or hand-me-downs
~= These are pretty thin. I double these up and then fold down the front to fit inside a cover. So technically from these six, I only have three inserts.

That should cover us until potty training.

I have some newborn stuff now, but will need more, so let's double up some of these items to prepare for the newborn days...
12 small GMD prefolds $30
5 Thirsties Duo Wrap w/ snaps $66.25
1 Thirsties Duo Wrap w/ velcro $11.10
1 Ecoable cover w/ velcro $11
Estimated $119

Estimated future total for cloth diapering birth to potty: $295

That's approximately 6 months of disposables based on what I've been spending for Calvin so far. And Justin and I want multiple children. Covers may need to be replaced, but I believe prefolds will last through many babies, from what I've read.
As of right now, Calvin wears disposables at the Grandmas' (4 days per week, 10 hours per day while I work) and at nighttime because we stocked up on nighttime diapers before we decided to embark on this adventure, so we're going to be using those up before we decide if we are ready to try cloth overnight. Also cloth diapering overnight sounds very intimidating. Also my husband thinks it's best to just stick to the overnight diapers, so I let that be our compromise for now. :)

So this is all an experiment really. I'd like to do all cloth from the start with the next babies, so we will see if I can convince the Grandmas :). At first my mom thought I was crazy, but when she realized I wasn't trying to force it on her, she became much more happy with my decision, maybe with time we'll convince her! I'm not sure how my mother-in-law feels about it, we haven't really discussed it with her.

I'm not adding in the cost of wet bags because we use a Munchkin diaper pail, so we buy bags for that anyway and they aren't cheap man. I'm sure we can rig up a way to put a cloth liner in there. I told Justin when we run out of those bags, we're just going to buy a cloth liner instead. Even if we are putting disposables in it, at least we can reuse that bag instead of just throwing it out each time. For the cloth for now we just use a little laundry basket to transport from the nursery to the toilet to the wash room, etc.
Dandelion Diapers size 5 organic cotton/bamboo prefold inside a Thirsties Duo Wrap size 2 
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THE SYSTEM

Why prefolds & covers?
1. Affordable
Prefolds or flats and covers are pretty much as affordable as it gets with cloth diapering. You can re-use a diaper cover a few times as long as it doesn't have poo on it or get smelly, meaning you don't have to buy as many. You don't have to change a "full diaper" each time you change a baby's butt. For example, we go through around 3 covers and 7 prefolds per day. That means about every other time Calvin needs to be changed, I can just replace the insert and leave the outer shell.
2. Quick Dry Time
After doing my research, I decided to line dry the covers in order to help them last as long as possible, in order to go through as many babies as possible. You have to take care of the PUL material, elastic, snaps, etc. The material helps them dry super fast anyway since it's meant to be waterproof, there's no thick fabric for the moisture to settle in. I do, however, put our prefolds in the drier on medium heat and they dry in reasonable time. They are two separate pieces that come apart to be dried separately.
3. Basic
With all the different types of diaper systems there are, these are very basic and make sense to me. You have the absorbing part (prefold) and the waterproof part (cover). Easy peasy.
4. Versatile
You can use prefolds as actual diapers, wrap them around the baby, and secure with pins or a snappi. Put a cover on top for the waterproof barrier, or let the baby run free around the house. Or trifold them into a pad shape and use them as inserts inside diapers, which is so far my favorite way to use them. I was skeptical about this second method, I thought for sure the diapers would leak, but so far so good! Think about it, when you take a look at a disposable, only that center pad part is actually absorbing the potty, the wings and edges are just plastic stuff, like the diaper covers.
5. The Poo
It is super easy to just dunk a prefold into the toilet if need be! They are more compact than other options. No need for a sprayer. Not as gross as it may seem either! Haha.
6. Durability
Prefolds are pretty much indestructible, they should last through multiple babies. Covers will last longer because I hang dry them (see reason #2).

Thirsties Duo Wraps size 2 (top to bottom) Aspen Grove, Fallen Leaves, Woodland, Fin, Meadow, Moss
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What's not fun about cloth?

Of course there are downsides too.
Snaps can take a few extra seconds to close the diaper on a baby, but I think with time and practice, I'll get quicker. Velcro legit takes the same amount of time as a disposable, so no worries there.
It takes like 30 seconds to walk to the bathroom and plop a poo in the toilet and walk back to the nursery. TMI but Cal's poos are very solid these days, they literally just plop right off. Exclusively breastfed newborn poo doesn't even need to be rinsed. So really the only time you have to actually deal with the poo is for those 4-ish months when you've just started introducing baby food.
The laundry aspect does kind of suck too. But it's only twice per week for us. And it's not really the fact that we're doing extra laundry, it's more that the diaper loads are washed differently from our regular loads.
Our wash schedule:
Soak in warm water 15 minutes
Pre-Rinse
Heavy cycle, warm water, large load, medium amount of detergent
Extra Rinse
But since our washer doesn't have a lot of settings, this is what the diaper laundry schedule really looks like: Set to rinse cycle, keep the lid open while the water fills, set a timer for 15 minutes, let it soak with the lid open, go back and shut the lid to turn on the rinse cycle, wait for rinse cycle, then go back and turn it on for the full cycle. Not a super big deal, but I'm bad at remembering the laundry on a normal day, much less when I have to go attend to one load several times. So if we had a washer that actually had the settings all built in and I didn't have to go back and forth, I don't think the laundry would bother me at all.

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IN CONCLUSION


Overall, I feel really good about this. It may sound weird and might be hard to understand, but it makes me feel more involved with my baby boy, just like breastfeeding and making baby food. Even when I'm not directly spending time with him, I'm still doing so many things for him and that makes me happy. I'm happy knowing this is money well spent. These diapers will be used on future babies and will help us contribute less to landfills, plus they're adorable! 

Thanks for reading!
Love,
Alaina









Monday, January 9, 2017

New Year Breastfeeding Goal?

I want to be that mom who doesn't care about whipping out her boob to feed her baby. Her hungry baby. Her whiny baby. Her tired baby. The boob really is the best for fixing most of baby's problems.


I am much more open about breastfeeding on social media. I don't have a problem with posting pictures of me and Calvin breastfeeding on Instagram in particular. I post links all day on my personal Facebook about breastfeeding, but I haven't posted a picture of us there. I don't have a problem feeding him with my close family around: my sisters, nieces, mom and dad, but when it comes to attending a birthday party for Justin's side or shopping at Walmart, I bring a bottle.

Sometimes I feel guilty about bringing a bottle. Why can't I just feed him like usual? Why am I not brave enough? I feel guilty because it seems like Calvin eats so much better at the breast. He seems to calm down better and relax more. If he's also tired, it helps him rest or fall asleep.

I want to be able to just whip it out and feed my baby no matter where we are or who is there. My main worries are douche-face people who have dumb-ass comments to make, making people I know uncomfortable, and now that Calvin is older, him not being able to focus and showing my nipple off to everyone haha. The number one of which is making people I know uncomfortable. I just remember when Cal was a very tiny baby, Justin's brother came over. I knew he was coming, so I put a nursing scarf on to cover up. His brother walked in and said, "oh, is this a bad time?" It made him uncomfortable even when I had a cover on. And we don't use a cover like ever. So what happens if we go to a birthday party for one of his kids and I whip it out to feed Mr. Cal with zero cover on?

Then I think, next time I'll do it differently. Next baby I'll not give two craps from the very start. I'll have a crazy toddler to worry about too, I won't have time to pump and make a bottle before we go somewhere, or pump when we return to make up for missed feedings or whatever. Next time it will be different.

And then I think to myself, why wait?

It's the new year, might as well come up with some kind of resolution, right? And God willing, we're only about halfway through with our breastfeeding journey anyway, we still have plenty of time to get used to feeding everywhere, plenty of time to take advantage of it, it's not too late. I pray we have many more months of breastfeeding to go!

So here it is ladies and gentlemen: we are on our journey toward breastfeeding everywhere! I don't see this as an overnight change, but a gradual transition, and hopefully putting it there for the internet to see will help keep me motivated and feel accountable.

I love you guys!
Alaina

Latest Video Uploads! LainasLife & Lainamarie91



Guys, I was super productive this weekend! Check it out! I edited two videos during one naptime! Haha. This is #momlife. 

I put up my Latest Vlog from this past Wednesday at home with Calvin on my mommy channel. Plus a Roxie's Baby Everything Blanket video for my regular channel to remind people that I'm still here and hopefully draw some viewers over to my vlog channel if they're interested in the mommy side of things.

I hope this little weekend of motivated effort will continue to give me momentum.

Love,
Alaina

P.S.
Calvin is army crawling!

Friday, December 30, 2016

I Hate That I Had a C-Section

In all honesty, I absolutely hate it. Even seven months on. I hate that I had a c-section. It bothers me like no other. I almost went off on my best friend the other day for saying I hadn't given birth to Calvin. I very sternly retaliated with, "it was his birth day, wasn't it?"



I wish he had been breech and we had to have a c-section instead of pushing and failing. 
He was head down. 
He was ready.
I was not.
After nearly 20 hours in labor and 3 hours of pushing. I failed. 
That's what I feel like. I feel like I failed. I tried and I failed.
Then when Calvin could/would not latch in the hospital, I felt like even more of a failure. 
I felt like I had completely fucked up being a mother. In just a few days time. After months of carrying him, I had thrown that all out the window because I didn't give birth to him the way I thought it would happen.
I never read about c-sections or recovery because I thought it would never happen to me. 
I hate that it greatly increases my odds of having more c-sections. 
And I want a big family. 
And it makes me wonder whether or not I should even try to push next time around. 
If I fail again, I fear it will be even more of a traumatic experience than the first time around. 
But if I don't try again, am I just admitting defeat? I'm not even putting any faith in myself. 

There are a lot of things about Calvin's birth and the last five weeks of my pregnancy that make me upset, even still. Things that make me feel like a failure. Things I feel traumatized over. Things that I know will haunt me in all my future pregnancies. Regrets. Fears. And I want the opportunity to redeem myself and "do it right" next time. I love Calvin with all my heart, more than I ever knew I could love anything or anyone, yet I hate most of the entire birth experience I had with him. Women talk about how empowering giving birth is and I certainly did not and do not feel that way at all about the birth of Calvin. 

I don't write this to get any kind of sympathy. I write this for the chance to rant and let my feelings out, but also to hopefully show another mother out there that she is not alone if she has similar feelings. 

We are all mothers. I guess the one positive thing I can pass along is this: don't let one moment of motherhood define your entire identity as a mother. Your baby doesn't care or remember, all he needs to know is how much you love him and that you are being the best mommy you can be for him.

Love,
Alaina